The Enduring Wisdom of Kindergarten: Simple Lessons for a Complex World
Robert Fulghum's "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten" isn't just a book; it's a gentle yet powerful reminder that the most profound life lessons are often those we encounter in the earliest stages of our education. Published in 1986, this collection of essays explores the fundamental principles instilled in us during our kindergarten years and demonstrates their enduring relevance in adulthood. Fulghum, drawing from his experiences as a kindergarten teacher and observer of human behavior, takes readers on a journey through stories, anecdotes, and reflections on life, highlighting how these simple lessons can guide our relationships, actions, and endeavors.
The Golden Rule and the Foundation of Empathy
At the heart of Fulghum's book lies the age-old Golden Rule: "Treat others as you want to be treated." This basic principle, taught in kindergarten, sets the stage for a compassionate and empathetic society. It emphasizes the importance of putting ourselves in others' shoes and acting with kindness and understanding. A sense of purpose is naturally connected with the golden rule. Putting others first is such a simple idea, yet it is something every organization and every one of us could work on. The Golden Rule lays the groundwork for ethical behavior and positive social interactions, reminding us that our actions have consequences and that treating others with respect is paramount.
Sharing: The Joy of Giving and Togetherness
The act of sharing toys in kindergarten holds a much deeper meaning. It's about understanding the joy of giving and creating a sense of togetherness. Fulghum urges us to extend this concept beyond toys to sharing feelings, time, and experiences. This unselfishness is native to a meaningful purpose. It is the mechanism that unites us all to turn our pursuit of purpose into a movement powered by all those we share with - team members, customers, prospects, and more. Sharing fosters collaboration, strengthens relationships, and creates a sense of community. It teaches us that we are all interconnected and that contributing to the well-being of others ultimately benefits us all.
Play: A Child's Way of Learning and Understanding
Play, as the book highlights, is not just a way to pass the time-it’s a child’s way of learning and understanding the world. In kindergarten, play is a primary method of education. It encourages creativity, problem-solving, and social interaction. Through play, children develop their imaginations, learn to cooperate, and explore different roles and perspectives. Making time for wonder is also important. Kindergarten was a time of wide-eyed discovery. We were encouraged to explore and learn and grow. It is through wonder that we develop a deep respect for everything around us. Wonder is innate in a truly meaningful purpose. It makes us marvel at a profound difference we could make. It catalyzes our inspiration and our aspirations.
Curiosity: The Thirst for Knowledge
Kindergarten is a place of wonder and curiosity. Children constantly ask questions, eager to learn and explore. Fulghum suggests that this thirst for knowledge should persist into adulthood. Maintaining a sense of curiosity allows us to stay engaged with the world, challenge our assumptions, and continuously grow and evolve. It encourages us to seek out new information, ask "why," and never stop learning.
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Applying Kindergarten Lessons in the Adult World
The lessons learned in kindergarten extend far beyond the classroom. They are applicable to our personal lives, our professional careers, and our interactions with the world around us.
Professional Life
As I have worked with several organizations undergoing large transformation efforts, I’ve been reminded of how some of the basic principles we learned during our early years in primary school, are still the ones we need to follow throughout our professional and adult lives. Beyond the basic skills of reading, writing and mathematics…they teach elementary school children to have good character, be a good friend, be focused and determined, and always try your best.
Finding Your Seat: In kindergarten, the teacher would say "Find your seat." This signaled: sit down and listen to what comes next. In the Covid world, it means finding your home workspace. What props go on the wall behind you and on your bookshelf for web-camera meetings? Do you have enough bandwidth? Do you upgrade cameras, lighting or microphones? Do you paint the room a different color or get a more comfortable chair? How could you create a space to be productive? Until each family member “found their seat,” it was tough to focus on what came next.
The Schedule: Kindergarten teachers have a visible schedule to show students what they will do next. As much as people wish for the calendar to change to 2021, not much will be different January 1, or the months that follow. We entered Covid thinking it would be a six-week stay-in-place. Decisions were made with this temporary mindset. Seven months later, we recognize we will be here for some time. Some companies have embraced this, changed their mindset and given employees flexibility to choose quality of life options. Instead of “tolerating” our circumstances, now is the time to explore with your employees what the next several months could look like. This is the perfect time for a virtual offsite. Reflect on what has been going well. Explore where you’ve been slow to make decisions and feel challenged. Determine what can be stopped. Focus on what noise can be removed. Proactively imagine what would make the next several months the best experience. If you aren’t sure how to do that, seek out an external facilitator to guide you through activities. Don’t wait to go back to the way things were. Your employees and teams will come out of this different. Harness that for the positive.
Listen, Share, and Ask Questions: Most kindergarteners need to learn how to put on their “listening ears” and share the community box of peeled crayons. In the Covid world, teams became stilted behind web cameras. Agendas were packed and not enough space was given to discussion, listening or sharing. Voices and perspectives were lost. Healthy teams intentionally ask each person for input and really listen to responses. Decisions aren’t rushed. Pauses are embraced for thinking and share of voice watched.
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Say Please and Thank You: Kindergarten teachers reinforce those students who say please and thank you. Workhuman did a study that found nearly 50% of employees did not receive a thank you from a manager or employee during these past seven months. Now more than ever, employees want to feel seen, especially virtually. Many people have been balancing work, helping teach their kids school and run their home. Sharing a thank you goes a long way in making someone feel valued. It’s the cheapest and most impactful reinforcement.
Time Outs and Quiet Time are Welcome: Kindergarten teachers love quiet time and breaks to help kids reset. In the Covid world, people are struggling with the blur between work and home. They don’t want to take time off if they can’t go anywhere and are exhausted. Time off is key to reset and gain resilience. Do you think “What would I do if I took time off?” Then you definitely need to schedule some. Dedicate device-free time. Find things that bring you resilience. Define a transition signal when stopping work for the day. Some of my friend’s light candles, some play music, some make a drink. Have a ritual that signals “work is done for the day” and give your brain permission to relax.
You Don’t Have to Like It, But You Do Have to Try It: As a picky eater growing up, this was a home rule. I had to try the food before I could declare I hated it, leading to some pleasant surprises. In the Covid world, there have been many new things to try. From free conferences to different collaboration tools and technology. While your instinct may be to reject things, this is a great time to experiment new ways of working.
Storytime is the Best Time: I vividly remember my teacher reading us stories in kindergarten. This was the best part of the day. In the Covid world, I am most often asked “How do I create a connected and engaged culture virtually?” Storytelling is the most powerful way to connect, engage and inspire employees and shape culture. People are struggling, feeling they are letting down their families and work. Share a story about your struggles, or a mistake you’ve made. Not only will people view you as more trustworthy, you create an environment for others to share their stories. Not sure where to start? You can learn storytelling.
Here are a few of those things we learned way back when and how a sense of purpose helps them flourish in the work we do today. Treat others how you want to be treated. Share always. Help others. Don't leave a mess.
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Personal Life
The principles of kindness, sharing, and respect learned in kindergarten are essential for building strong relationships and fostering a positive community. Being a good friend, helping others, and taking responsibility for our actions are all crucial for creating a fulfilling and meaningful life. Don't leave a mess. I don't know about you, but I was taught to pick up after myself. I learned early to leave the place the way I found it. No, scratch that. I was told to leave it a little better than I found it. After all, there were others that would be here after me. Thinking about others and the things around us is a powerful orientation. A purpose ensures that we are always dialed into this sense of responsibility for others and the world we live in.
Social Interactions
The Golden Rule, learned in kindergarten, serves as a foundation for ethical behavior and positive social interactions. Treating others with respect, empathy, and compassion creates a more harmonious and just society.
Specific Lessons and Their Enduring Relevance
Fulghum's book highlights several specific lessons learned in kindergarten and their continued importance in adulthood:
"Play fair." This principle emphasizes the importance of honesty, integrity, and ethical conduct in all aspects of life.
"Put things back where you found them." This simple rule promotes responsibility, organization, and respect for shared resources.
"Clean up your own mess." This lesson encourages accountability, taking ownership of our actions, and making amends for our mistakes.
"Don't take things that aren't yours." This principle reinforces the importance of honesty, integrity, and respecting the property of others.
"Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody." This lesson teaches empathy, remorse, and the importance of apologizing for our actions.
"Wash your hands before you eat." This simple act promotes hygiene and health, reminding us to take care of ourselves and others.
"Flush." Another basic lesson in hygiene and consideration for others.
"Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you." This simple pleasure reminds us to appreciate the small joys in life and to find comfort in simple things.
"Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some." This encourages a holistic approach to life, balancing work, leisure, creativity, and personal growth.
"Take a nap every afternoon." This highlights the importance of rest and relaxation for maintaining physical and mental well-being.
"When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together." This emphasizes the importance of safety, caution, and community.
"Be aware of wonder." This encourages us to appreciate the beauty and mystery of the world around us and to maintain a sense of curiosity and awe.
"Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that." This reminds us of the miracle of life, the power of growth, and the interconnectedness of all things.
"Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we." This acknowledges the reality of death and encourages us to appreciate the present moment and to live our lives to the fullest.
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